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Motherhood after Infertility and Parenting a child with ASD

New Year, New Hope


I’m Jewish and today is the New Year. We are officially in 5774! With this new year it looks like I have some renewed hope for what I want most in this world.

This morning I woke up way before I needed to which was frustrating but I just couldn’t turn my mind off. I laid in bed just trying to relax as much I can and then I got up, cleaned the entire downstairs, took a shower, got dressed in the best “I am ready to be a mom” outflit, put my make-up on and did my hair. I made sure to wear my hamsa necklace (a symbol for luck and protection). I was done a whole hour before we actually had to leave. Cue the impatient waiting (turned out to be the theme of the day).

We ended up getting out there super early so we got to explore downtown Charlotte for a little while and had lunch at a cute sandwich shop then headed to the hospital. E’s semen analysis was at 12:30pm and we checked in at 12 so we did a little waiting but I brought my kindle and sat back, trying to relax and enjoyed my smutty book. His specimen retrieval was non-eventful and then we had an hour and half to wait. We walked to starbucks but there was no way I was going to get caffeine or sugar before the appt so I just went over my questions to the RE. Back upstairs we went and just sat and waited. There were 25 minutes late for my appt but it wasn’t too bad.

I really liked the doctor. He was nice, open and really positive (which gets on my nerves the majority of the time but was nice to see in a doctor that was going to get me pregnant). We spent an hour and 15 minutes in his office talking… and thats all that was done; talking. No exam, no bloodwork, nada. I was expecting something other than talking for the appt but that’s ok.

Here is the very short version of the plan: on my next cycle we will be doing IUI.

If you want to stop reading now, please feel free. The rest will just be a recap of what we discussed and the different kinds of blood work we will be doing 🙂

One of the first things we discussed was my weight. When we walked into his office he had a stack of things to give me, one of which was apparently a weight loss packet. Once we discussed what I had been doing and I showed him my print out of the decreasing numbers he pulled that packet out and put it back on his shelf because he said I was obviously aware of it and was doing an awesome job at it 😀 he even stood up and shook my hand telling me how great I was doing and that he thought the number on my chart from the OBGYN was wrong when I walked in because I didnt look like I weighed that. That was great to hear. So, so, great.

The only thing he was a little concerned with was my liver function being slightly elevated both times my GYN took blood (and it was the reason they stopped the metformin a couple months ago). We are going to do another liver function test when we draw blood in a couple weeks on CD3 to see what it’s at and then if it is still elevated to go to an outside source and try to find out the reason.

I was expecting him to say that we would need to do a couple cycles of clomid cycles on our own before going to IUI but when he said we would go straight to it I was pleasantly surprised. I asked him how many IUI cycles we would need to go through in order to go to IVF and he said 4. I can deal with that.

So here is the detailed plans:

I am slated to have my period start 9/24-9/28 (if I am not absurdly late again and I am hoping for it to be much earlier since 9/24 would be CD 38 but not getting my hopes up).

On CD 3 I go in for a baseline ultrasound and bloodwork:

  1. FSH (follicle stimulating hormone)
  2. Estradiol
  3. Testosterone
  4. DHEAS (Dehydroepiandrosterone Sulfate – used to evaluate adrenal function and to distinguish androgen-secreting conditions that are caused by the adrenal glands from those that originate in the ovaries or testes)
  5. CA-125 (cancer antigen 125 – test for ovarian cancer)
  6. AMH (Anti-Mullerian Hormone – measure ovarian reserve)
  7. Hep B
  8. Hep C
  9. Liver function test
  10. Genetic screening panel

At that appointment I will be given the clomid prescription and start taking it from day 3-7. After that I will be monitored via ultrasound and inject a trigger shot (Ovidrel) when my ovaries are ready. E and I will have to have sex that night and then 30-36 hours after the trigger shot my IUI will be performed.

That’s if it isn’t canceled by my body not responding to the clomid and assuming my bloodwork comes back ok.

I am excited. An actual step and its not just a step towards testing. It is a real plan. A real, tangible, potential for possibly getting pregnant. I know that a million things could go wrong between now and then and the success rate for IUI is no where near IVF but it is a step and I hope and pray that all my hopes and dreams come true for this new year!


4 thoughts on “New Year, New Hope

  1. Happy new year and congrats on a good appt. glad things look good so far. One thought for you- if you’re losing weight could that be a possible cause of the liver test results? Doesn’t the liver have to break down all the toxins being released form the fat cells you’re shrinking?

    • That’s a great question and one I don’t know the answer to. I do know that the first time I had the test results done I hadn’t started my nutritional program and they were still elevated. The second time the test was done was a month into my weight loss journey so I’m not sure but I am definitely going to call and ask! I have a couple questions that I of coarse forgot to ask while I was there so this is being added to the list! Thanks!!

  2. Happy New Year! I’m Jewish as well 🙂 What a good way to start off this new time of TTC! I’m so glad that your doctor is more aggressive! I feel like we wasted quite a bit of time trying out things before starting our first IUI. I can’t wait to follow you on this journey!

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