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Motherhood after Infertility and Parenting a child with ASD

Facebook is the devil


I have read countless posts about this but I am still surprised by how passionately upset I get when someone announces a pregnancy or a new birth. I don’t mind the baby/toddler/children pictures but pregnancy announcements and those pictures of newborns in the hospital posts are like a searing wrought iron spear through the chest. It takes the breath out of me.

Last night E’s cousin who got married about a year and a half after us announced they were 8 weeks pregnant. I can’t even say I am happy for them. I mean I am but I can’t even bring myself to say congratulations on their post. I was nervous how E was going to react when he saw but I didn’t want to make it a big deal so I didn’t say anything and I just hoped he wouldn’t see the post. No such luck. Today I got a text from him that just said “fuck our lives” – I knew exactly what he was talking about but asked what was wrong just in case. He said D and A are pregnant. My response: Yea, I saw, but look at how fat he is and you are so much more handsome. Plus I am way better looking then her ;).” I just wanted to bring a smile to his face. He was cute and wrote back – ‘well that’s the damn truth!’ It was then followed up immediately with “I think I am going to deactivate Facebook. I am tired of seeing everyone else happy.”

I know how he feels. It’s like I do it to torture myself. I don’t know. I am really down right now and need to get myself back up. I have my last round of Clomid tonight and then it is just a matter of hoping that something shows on the scan on Tuesday. Need to focus on that.

10 thoughts on “Facebook is the devil

  1. I know exactly how you feel, I recently had 6 friends post a pregnancy announcement on Facebook. Needless to say I haven’t been back on. I think you handled your husbands text perfectly. You guys are clearly very close and in this together. Really hope this second round of clomid gets those follicles growing xx

    • Thanks so much hun! Sometimes I just feel that life would be so much easier before we had all this technology. We wouldn’t be able to look up every little twinge and analyze over the internet if someone else had the twinge and they turned out to be pregnant. The biggest this is infertile couples didn’t have pregnancy thrown in their faces the way today’s social media does, that’s for sure!! xo

  2. Yes. Facebook is a minefield of some sort. So sorry that you’ve been down. Hoping for a great scan next week. 🙂

  3. I came on wordpress tonight seeking comfort for the exact thing in your post. Facebook sucks!!!! I’m sitting here in tears over someone else’s happiness and excitement! Ugh. Its so nice to know someone else understands my pain. Sorry you’re going through this. I really am.

  4. Facebook is awful. And there’s never any telling when all of a sudden it’s going to give a sucker punch to the gut – I’ve been surprised on a few occasions by announcements or brand-new baby pictures. So sorry this is happening to you.

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