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Motherhood after Infertility and Parenting a child with ASD

The thought of going public


14 weeks 1 day – 181 days to go

We are getting closer and closer to when we are telling our families about the pregnancy. In fact we are only about 36 hours away from telling mine and I am an absolute bundle of nerves. I am sure half of them will guess when they see me because of how I look but I am going to try my best to hide the bump since we won’t be saying anything until the end of the night.

It’s been so nice keeping this a secret for so long. My mother is incredibly overbearing and asks so many questions. With my first pregnancy she knew all about my IF treatments and so she knew my test days; it was killer every cycle that failed and almost even worse with the cycle that worked. I got constant questions and she said things that I really just didn’t want to hear. This time has been so peaceful; shes been out of the loop completely (didn’t know about our second pregnancy/resulting miscarriage, or this miracle that is happening now) and I’ve had the opportunity to live my first trimester how I wanted to live it: without constant nagging.

That’s all about to change though and along with that is going to be the incredibly bad guilt trip I am going to get for waiting this long to tell her. Oh well, it’s how we choose to handle it and she’s just going to have to move on.

We’re Jewish and as such are having out family Hanukkah celebration this weekend. We have  our announcement photo all wrapped up and I plan on giving one to my brother/SIL and Mom/Step-dad to open at the same time. After they realize what’s going on I think I am just going to blurt out that it’s another boy. Nothing too fancy or exciting but should be fun none the less.

After that I guess we will just start telling people. I had planned on doing a Facebook announcement but the longer we wait the more I am not so sure. I know we have to tell our close circle of friends and I want to tell a few specific people in person but I am not sure if we will be doing something on social media anymore. I am not sure if I am just trying to protect myself in case something does end up going wrong or if I just feel differently this time around. With G’s pregnancy, we did a social media announcement at 12.1 weeks. I was definitely still terrified something would go wrong but I still did it… who knows.

So that’s the plan! I am going to use my doppler tomorrow morning to hopefully find little nugget and feel more confident about the right now to tell the family tomorrow night! Wish me luck!!

3 thoughts on “The thought of going public

  1. Good luck! It will feel so strange to be out in the open but I’m sure they will all be delighted 🙂

  2. Good luck!! I am so nervous about doing it, too, not sure why. Can’t wait to hear how it goes.

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