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Motherhood after Infertility and Parenting a child with ASD

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We have a name!

28 weeks 1 day – 83 days to go

I haven’t updated in a month and that’s for a variety of reasons. Mostly because nothing much has been going on but also because I still like to stay in my little bubble. Acknowledging the pregnancy feels like some sort of betrayal to my infertile self. None-the-less, I am big enough now where there is no question of ‘is she’ or ‘is she not’ pregnant so random strangers have started striking up pregnancy/baby conversations. The first time was a grocery cashier who just asked “when are you due” with no pre-context before it. I almost said “due for what?” before realizing what she was talking about. It’s just strange and I feel like an impostor.

Moving on… we have a name! Finally!! I honestly didn’t think it was going to happen. E and I really struggled with this one and while we haven’t shared it with anyone yet we are not changing it! We will end up telling family the name before the birth but won’t make it public until he is born. I struggled mostly because I wanted it to have some sort of significance. G’s first name is random, we just loved it, but his middle name is a family name. With this baby, we didn’t like ANY family name and while I thought my maiden name would have been a cool middle name E didn’t like it. We did find some significance in the name we chose though; my grandmother always calls my grandfather by his initials “LJ” and this baby’s name will have the same initials. So while we won’t nickname him “LJ” there is still that connection to family which I like.

In my last update I had just taken the glucose test and I am happy to say I passed the 1 hour test with flying colors. I am so thrilled since failed the 1 hour with G and had to take the 3 hour. Today was my 28 weeks visit and I finally gained some weight (4lbs – still down 11 from when I got pregnant)! My BP looked good, urine was clean, baby was so active that they couldn’t get a good BPM read, and essentially everything looks great. They want me back in 3 weeks and then we go to every 2 weeks after that. I can’t believe I am already in my third trimester. So crazy.

The next couple weeks I really need to get my butt in gear. While I got a lot of the newborn stuff out of the attic already and we do have the crib set up there is still a lot to do. I need to unpack everything from boxes and figure out where everything needs to go and what I actually need, I need to make room in the kitchen for all the baby things again, I need to get ready for my baby shower (which my best friend is amazing for throwing), and I need to start getting things off my plate at work. It’s overwhelming to think about. I was so much further along with the prep work when I was pregnant with G but work has been crazy and I just keep waiting for the other shoe to drop.